I think I ever tagged Fiona's blog about believing in Love. And then I subsequently saw a post on "What is Love?" Ah...so maybe today I should dissect this 4-letter word today that has caused so many joys and sadness to so many people out there. Heehee.
Oh. I wanted to say that my tag at that time was due to the very sappy Korean drama that I happened to be watching at that time. Namely, 大长今. I watch until so 感动 that I cry and cry. Buay tahan!! Haha. Okie so probably that's why I thought that true love existed.
Anyway so I was thinking about this issue in bed last night, and I thought of what constitutes to true love eh? My mommy has her very wayward thinkings of love...she feels that love is:
and some other stuffs I forgotten. All these are what my daddy did for her during their courtship days. Hahaha. When I look at my dad I cannot imagine leh!!! :p
I once stumbled on my daddy's birthday card which my mommy gave to him. So sweet wor! I think that was after my dad just proposed bah...so she addressed him as "my future husband, [insert name here]" and ended it with "your future wife, [insert name here]". I teased my mom for many days after that. wahahaha~~~
Okie lar, so now they are married, and it's been 25 years already.
Sometimes I wonder if I would ever find the right guy to get married to. I'm sure falling in love is easy what...but sustaining that love is difficult. No one can deny, sometimes the love just fades after a while, it takes other things to keep the relationship going. As to what are the other things that can keep the relationship going? There's no sure-method for this. It takes the couple to know each other to know what is the "thing" for them.
I once saw this poster of "The ABCs of Marriage" in clement's bro and DS room. Hmm...but before can even get married, must find the "Love" first right? Find liao then can talk about marriage right? So I decided to come up with my 10 key points of my version of true love.
And I don't mean in good times. Bad times too. Especially bad times. That's the time where I need someone most. When I'm high, he can be high with me. When I fall, I would like him to hold me up. To remind me that even when everything is shitty, he will still be there to hold it up. Or at least, hold me up...
A guy who loves you will make a place for you in his room. It goes to show that he's willing to share and he wants to share with me. :) At least the place in his room will always remind him about me. :)
Yup...he must have faith in me. He must not doubt me. He must not doubt my ability. He can be my cheerleader, but he should never blow me down.
If he's willing to tell you everything, it goes to show that he trusts you.
I can't explain how much this means to me. Haha. Yes I'm a suckler for guys who can plan and who wants to plan with me. It shows that I am important enough in his life that he wants me to be part of it...even in the future.
He doesn't mind accompanying you to gatherings and actively gets to know them.
As in, tries to integrate me into his family? Or finding ways for me to know his family when he knows that there isn't many chances in the 1st place. (And that doesn't mean keep going to his house more often but his whole family just hides in their rooms)
On the back. And I learnt this from Hitch. Not too low, because it's too sleazy. Not too high, because it means you are friends. But in the middle, which says "I really adore you". Hehee.
I love this the most. I think this act is one of the greatest way to show that you love someone. :)
This is to tell me that he doesn't want me to worry. So he will always drop me an SMS to tell me where he is.
So much for my 10 key points. But if a guy can do all these 10 stuffs for me, I think I will be feeling so touched that I no need to doubt whether he is true love or not already! Haha. :P
Stunningly Gorgeous Y 9:22 PM
