Haven't been blogging for quite some time, due to my "busy" schedule. Heh. Labels: relationships
Wanted to post the photos from Innovationation, but yet I haven't got round to uploading it.
My week was good, because I bought some new clothes (very cheap!! Thanks to warehouse sales. Haha)
And then I went to the Global Chinese Music Awards, and saw many stars. At a distance no less. :) Finally got to see SHE perform at last. I like them!! Especially Ella, with her crazy antics. Heh.
Hmm...what else is there?
Saturday's Life edition is something which I enjoyed reading. I liked it because they were featuring all the stars' homes and their decor tips. Makes me wonder if I would ever have that chance to finally get my 1-room condo (or to put it in correct terms, studio apartment). So Jean Danker's home gave me a lot of inspiration. She's only 27!! Not to mention highly successful at that. I hope I can be earning enough to pay for a condo like her's by the time I am 27 too. Heehee.
Anyway there was this article on commitment sent in by a reader. It is a reply to a column by a Straits Times' writer, about how he cannot commit. It strikes a chord in me. Anyway the article is about how there are three basic types of personalities in relationship, namely the Secure Lover, the Avoident Lover and the Anxious-ambivalent Lover. Okay this is from the Hazan-Shaver theory of attachment.
Secure Lovers are people who are confortable sharing personal space and letting down their guard to people whom they want to share their lives with.
Avoidant Lovers are people who find it hard to be close to others and hardly allow themselves to depend on others.
Anxious-ambivalent Lovers are people who find their potential lovers not as deeply involved as they are in a relationship, and worry about losing their partners and doubting the strength of their lover's affection.
And so the article goes like how we should discover ourselves what kind of personality we have before we actually fall in love. And that avoidant lovers should never be someone who is anxious-ambivalent.
And if we know ourselves well enough, we would be able to find someone who actually shares the same personality as us and thus be able to go into a relationship.
Hmm...upon reading this I realised that I can relate quite easily to this. Currently I am the anxious-ambivalent lover. I was a secure lover before, and somehow things just changed. And now I find myself evolving into an avoidant lover.
Maybe being an avoidant lover is the best way to avoid getting hurt I suppose. :)
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